Good Morning Beautiful,
Today is Saturday, and it’s officially the weekend. Let me fill you in on my Friday night. I invited a few friends over for a girl’s night of food, wine and binge watching Sex & the City. Typical? Yes, very much so, but let’s stay focused. We started with Season 1, and by episode 2 I was laughing at the irony. Here we were matching the scene in front of us all the way down to the messy buns and post hell week chill clothes. We were sitting around the table discussing men…and women for some of us. The plot of this episode was centered around models, beauty and, “giraffes with big breasts.” Looking around we all burst out laughing. I might be tall, but I don’t consider a 36C to be so big, so I think I’m safe. All of us are tall for women ( 5’8” to about 6’0”), and we’ve all heard the oh so famous phrase.. “You’re so tall….You should be a model.”
This is when the topic hit me…What’s more important? Size or health?
The “industry” has taken a hold on us all at some point. Myself included. Too small, too tall, fat, skinny… WHO CARES?! I am not always happy with all the newest trends, but I am happy with one that should already be a natural state of mind.
Does being a size 4 make you healthy? No.
Does being a size 18 make you unhealthy? No.
All sizes are circumstantial. When I was a size 8, I was the unhealthiest I had been in my entire life. I was bouncing back and forth between Starbucks and an eating disorder. Yes, I am one of many who have struggled.
It took me 25 years to be comfortable with my 5’10 1/4”, size 14/16 body, and I am the happiest that I have EVER been!
Still struggling? Need a boost?
Here are a few body confidence tips, do’s and don’ts to help put some things into perspective:
1. Do: Fight the old tale. Shoot the messenger!
Have you ever had someone say something negative to you about your body, weight or size that completely ruined your mood? Have you had a thought in the changing room that made you put down the most amazing outfit? Shoot the messenger!!
Disclaimer: I’m not asking you to go out and kill anybody!
If someone tells you something negative about your body…SPEAK UP! For every negative thing you hear, speak another positive. For every reason you think you shouldn’t wear that outfit… Think of every reason why you should. Stop that negative feeling before it starts, and be your own self love publicist.
Don’t: Cuss out your doctor for giving you health advice.
2. Do: Get naked!
Spend more time in your birthday suit! Prance around the house, and sleep naked more often. You will learn more about your body, and there’s nothing better than being comfortable in your own skin. Did you know only 17% of Americans sleep completely naked? Shocker to me! Let’s add to the number shall we?
Don’t: Walk around naked if you have roommates! I would hate for you to walk out into a living room full of people. AWKWARD!!
3. Do: Spend time in the mirror
Think about this. Majority of the time when we look in the mirror it’s because we are looking for something to be wrong. Is my hair ok? Is there something in my teeth? Let me fix my lipstick…The list goes on. When is the last time you sat in the mirror to think about all the things that are right about you? No makeup, no lashes,nothing extra…Just you. Every morning or every night find something about yourself that you love. Look in the mirror and see how beautiful you are.
Don’t: Do this in a public place or while driving! We have the tendency to get caught up in our looks.
4. Smile for goodness sake!
Don’t? There isn’t one. Smile for any and every reason. The more you smile, the better you will feel!