Naughty Bits: Will They Be Good In Bed?

This question has crossed the mind of every sexually active person…”I wonder if they are good in bed”…”I wonder if he/she can do   insert naughty sexual favor  well.” Of course you can’t judge how a person is in bed at first glance, and hopefully you’re not reading this in attempt to figure out your new Tinder boo after 30 minutes of texting.

Let’s start off with pre-sex judgement.

Think about the last time you were really into someone. Before you knew how they were in the sack…What did you think about their skills in the bedroom? Good? Bad? or … “We aren’t going to make it that far.”

Hopefully the answer is good, and if so….What made you think they were good in bed? I know my personal beliefs (which I will share later), but I wanted to know the thoughts of a few others…and if you ask…you generally shall receive.

Sexy Sheets

I asked the wonderful people of social media an initial question…

“Do you prejudge your partner’s skills before sex?”

I got some interesting answers…and some a little kinkier than expected.

♀ | 1Definitely.

Self: Do you keep your expectations high or low, and why?

♀ | 1: Depends all on the vibe from the person. I can typically judge beforehand whether or not that mental/emotional connection will be there.

♀ | 2: Uummmm, well …….Yeah & No. Yeah cause I don’t like sexual surprises a.k.a I’d rather NOT be disappointed, but I’m pretty open to having to teach lmao!

♀ | 3: Yup lmao!

Self: Do you go in with low or high expectations?

♀ | 3: Depends on how buddy look and dress.

♂ | 1: You never know how good anyone is in the sack until you get there…People you think are shy normally could turn into freaks in the bed. People you think are outgoing could have sex like a fish on land. It’s a guessing game to be honest. I’ve had a wide range.

♀ | 4: I guess it really depends on the person.

Self: What would make you think a person is good in bed?

♀ | 4: Confidence.. But not too much. Cockiness to me is a sign of bad sex.

♀ | 5: No, prejudging often causes you to set yourself up for disappointment.

Self:  If the person is bad in bed is that a deal breaker for you?

♀ | 5: Depends because some people are teachable while others are simply just a no go. Sex is more than just laying in bed with someone, it’s more passionate than anything. You have to connect on a sexual level mentally and physically.

♂ | 2: Hell naw. Cuz every girl is different and you would be surprised and who got it and who don’t.

Self: What’s a deal breaker for you?

♂ | 2: Well I’m not big on standards personally. Petty, bad breath, and ugly feet are absolute no’s.

♂ | 3: Yep lol

Self: What makes you think a person would be good in bed? Signs?

| 3: Confidence, the way she kisses, the details she gives in a dirty text message…Lol

♀ | 6: I always expect them to be mediocre. However I’ve got credentials and references for my skills, so I don’t care if they judge before experiencing or not. Matter of time before they see the truth.

| 4: It might cross my mind, especially if the girl is really hot, but if she tells me she likes 50 Shades, or she likes some other kinky $&%* that’s a big NO for me. I’m not into that. I always judge the outwardly kinky ones as big teasers before I think they are good in bed.

Self: What is the weirdest thing a girl has ever told you she was into?

| 4: Last year I had a chick tell me that she liked to put spray whip in her cooch before oral.

Disclaimer: LADIES!! Don’t ever…EVER… E V E R  put any sugar/food based item near your NAUGHTY BITS! A balanced diet and lots of water will do your body just fine!

My answer ♀ |  Just like the majority of people, I will think about how the person I am into is in bed. Now let me be clear on something. THAT IS NOT MY INITIAL THOUGHT. If a person is interested in me for just sex and vice versa that’s a complete no go. I have to have an emotional connection with a person point blank. Now my thought process goes in a particular order…Sexual History is always first. I am not trying to catch anything! Second is Sexual Style…Are they romantic in bed? Are they lazy? Are they kinky?  Next are Limitations…I am not into the Dom and Sub 50 Shades Style sex. If you come at me with a riding crop and some rope two things will happen. I will either never speak to you again or we will fight! Lastly, my most frequent thought will be about Frequency. Are they a very sexual person that likes to have sex ALL OF THE TIME or are they rainy day love makers. These are questions that need answers people!

So now it’s your turn to figure it out! Grab your partner…Get out there, and get naked!…Just not in public because I don’t want anyone arrested.

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Fall 2015 — Wearable Makeup Trends

For every season there are always the classics, but at the end of Fashion Week everyone loves to see the common bond among the collections. Some of the makeup from the runway was a bit out there, but with the right products, are attainable.

One that you might not expect to see in the Fall is Peachy/ Rosie cheeks!

               NYX rouge cream blush tickledMAC wash and dry hipnesstarte shimmering peach Airblush Maracuja Blush  

Product Information (Left to Right):

NYX’s Rouge Cream Blush in Tickled– This blush is very sheer, but it packs a lot of power! SHIMMER…SHIMMER…SHIMMER!!! I wouldn’t recommend this color for everyday wear. This blush is perfect for a night out on the town. It gives a bit of a dewy effect, so it’s perfect for catching the light in any room. You can amp this blush up with a seductive smokey eye, or be a fresh face with a neutral lip, and a bit of your favorite mascara.        

Price: $6.00 USD (BARGAIN)

MAC’s Powder Blush in Hipness– A warm peach/coral blush with a beautiful satin finish. This color is extremely pigmented, and is from MAC’s Wash & Dry Collection Remember a little goes a long way! This color may appear matte at first glance, but it has a hint of shimmer that’s just perfect. It is very similar to Orgasm by NARS. If you have oil skin, and are worried about your blush lasting…this is perfect for you!    

Price: $24.50 USD

Tarte’s Airblush Maracuja Blush in Shimmering Peach– This cream blush is on the lighter side as far as color is concerned. It is a very light peach color and is very long lasting. With that being said, if you are of a lighter complexion…then this blush may be perfect for you! Of course that does not rule everyone else out. This blush has the ability to be an AMAZING highlight because it is so light in color, and it is very sheer. 

Price: $26.00 USD


Beautiful example of a peachy blush on Naomi Campbell for the Zac Posen Fall 2015 Ready-to-Wear.

Gold, bronze, silver, sparkle and shimmer plagued the runway in the best way possible this year. Four of my personal favorites this year are Anna Sui, Mara Hoffman, Tadashi Shoji & Zac Posen!


Anna Sui
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Zac Posen

If you are thinking about some of this glitz and glam to your makeup collection, these products may be perfect!

eyes bobbi brown shimmer brick Bronze  eyes smashbox full exposure paletteeyes MAC a glimmer of gold

Product Information (Left to Right):

Bobbi Brown Shimmer Brick in Bronze– 5 highly pigmented shadows that can be used day or night. This shadow brick doubles as a beautiful highlight! 

Price: $46.00 USD

Smashbox Mini Palette in Full Exposure I would recommend this tiny palette for beginners or the best of makeup artists! The gorgeous shimmers are paired with neutral shades that are perfect for everyday use. 

Price: $24.00 USD (BARGAIN)

MAC Mineralize Eye Shadow in A Glimmer of Gold This quad can help create that hint of glimmer in a fresh face look or the “WOW!” factor for a sultry, smokey eye! 

Price: $46.00 USD

Bonus! What beautiful eye would be complete without lashes?

Lashes can compliment the most simple of looks or add drama to a beautiful creation!

mac 43 lash velour mink lashes it's sho fluffy!

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MAC’s Lashes in 43– These lashes are perfect for a night out! They have a bit of space in between, and this adds the perfect amount of contrast and drama.

Price: $17.00 USD

Velour Lashes’ Mink Lashes in It’s Sho Fluffy! These very fluffy and fluttery lashes can be worn day or night due to the fact that they are so wispy. I love that the lash lengths vary across the band! — Follow them on Instagram! @velourlashesofficial

Price: $35.00 USD

Last, but certainly not least….LIPS! This Fall is all about the barely there nude lip & very vampy shades.

Tips for Nude Lips!

  1. When trying to find your perfect shade..the key is to think NUDE!…N-u-d-e….naked…close to the color of your LIPS…not your SKIN! If you pick a lipstick that is the color of your face you will look washed out and..well… just strange.
  2. What’s your undertone? This is very important because there are some nudes that are more on the cool side, and some may appear more warm. If you feel like you look better in more cool colors: blue, light green and purple, then you may have a cool undertone. If you feel like you look better in warmer colors: red, orange and yellow/green, then you may have a warm undertone.
  3. If your able to swatch your favorite options…take a picture! A picture will let you see what really suits you. A picture with a flash will help determine if the shade is too pale for your complexion.

Tips for Vampy Lips!: 

  1. Vampy lip colors can be a bit high maintenance, so choose wisely. If you are going out to eat with the girls, then this may not be the best bet. If you do, choose a long lasting lip color.
  2. Use a good lip liner! Many brands release a lip liner that matches the lipstick of choice or one that compliments. This will keep your lips looking nice and not smudgy.
  3. Once again, be aware of your undertone, and use it as your guide.
  4. Be careful with shimmery lipsticks. A bit of shimmer is ok for the right occasion, but too much shimmer can make classy look trashy very fast!

dolce and gabanna nude monic 40MAC mineralize rich lipstick- rare breedclinique Colour Surge Butter Shine Lipstick in delovelykat von d studded kiss lipstick vampiravampy lip MAC mineralize rich lipstick in LABRADORABLENARS Audacious Lipstick Liv

Product Information (Left to Right):

Dolce&Gabbana’s Voluptuous Lipstick in True Monica 40- Please do not confuse this color with Nude Monica 20 (very pale color). This lipstick has a satin finish and is highly pigmented. 

Price: $35.50 USD

MAC’s Mineralize Rich Lipstick in Rare Breed- This color is part of the Haute Dog Collection for Fall 2015. This is my favorite out the nude selections! It is very natural with a hint of pink. This lip color is very nice with or without a lip liner.

Price: $23.00 USD 

Clinique’s Colour Surge Butter Shine Lipstick in Delovely- This color will glide across your lips with ease! This may be a lipstick, but it has the appearance of a gloss. If you are going for a fresh face look, then this is the perfect lipstick!

Price: $17.00 USD (BARGAIN)

Kat Von D’s Studded Kiss Lipstick in Vampira- When you think of a classic vampy color…this one should come to mind. This color really makes a statement! Caution: Please exfoliate your lips prior to wear! If you have chapped lips your mouth will look like a brick road. You must have a good foundation to work with!

Price: $21.00 USD (BARGAIN)

MAC’s Mineralize Rich Lipstick in Labradorable– This luscious color is also included in the Haute Dog Collection for Fall 2015. This is a beautiful berry shade that is a good match for almost every skin tone! This color is somewhat sheer, so this is a go to for daytime or nighttime wear. 

Price: $23.00 USD

NARS’ Audacious Lipstick in Liv- This dark plum shade is truly sexy! I would recommend a liner for this color. You will get your money’s worth with this lip color. It is one swipe to perfection! This is a truly opaque color.

Price: $32.00 USD

This Fall, try new things, and embrace your beauty!